Master's Storybook

I’ve seen this topic come up again and again and I feel very strongly about it. It’s imperative that as the Dom you do not confuse Punishment and Play. Confusing the two can have long lasting detrimental effects on your relationship with your sub.

If you think of it in terms of human behavior, you as the one in control are providing structure to someone’s life where they are either unable or unwilling to provide structure for themselves. Perhaps they just find it easier to have that structure and discipline provided by an outside source. It makes them feel comfortable and it feeds a real psychological need for them.

You have a lot of control over your sub’s life. Different relationships or arrangements have very different degrees of control, but the idea of punishment versus play should be absolute and clearly defined. Your sub should not enjoy their punishments. Too many novice masters make this mistake and too many subs act out to receive a punishment they deem pleasurable.

How are you going to correct a behavior if you dole out a punishment that your sub enjoys? Aren’t they just more likely to act out instead of correcting the behavior? Sure, you may be a kind Dom and choose to add positive reinforcement instead of negative, but there will come a time where you will have to administer punishment and if your sub enjoys a spanking then a spanking should not be the punishment you choose.

The line gets blurred quite a bit when you’re playing with your sub and BDSM themes come into play. Your sub may enjoy activities that are deemed part of the lifestyle, to continue with my previous example, a spanking. While this does tie into the continuity of the lifestyle it’s playtime and not punishment. If your sub enjoys pleasuring you (and which don’t) then using them for your pleasure isn’t a punishment. If they enjoy being restricted then tying them up isn’t going to be a good punishment, nor would you want it to become a punishment.

For the same reasons that you do not want to use play as punishment you do not want to use punishment in your play. You want your sub to enjoy playtime and unless you’re trying to alter their enjoyment or guide them away from a certain activity then you should not bring punishment into playtime. You don’t want your sub to form a negative reaction to playtime activities.

Punishment and pain are also distinctly different. Play and punishment can both include a pain aspect. All punishment has to be is something that your sub dislikes. This could include severe pain like caning or just the discomfort of kneeling on a hard floor for a time. It can be something you command them to do or it can be something you do to them.

You know your sub better than anyone, hopefully, so you know what they are afraid of, and the things they don’t like. Use that as punishment.

This post is about punishment, and in closing I want to point out that any good Dom should realize that there are only so many times you can whip the mule so to speak. If you find yourself constantly having to punish your sub, there’s something in the larger pictures that’s not right. You should sit down with them and talk about what’s going on. You also shouldn’t punish your sub relentlessly. Rewarding good behavoir is just as important as punishing bad.

Swinging, open relationships, sharing your wife/husband/girlfriend/boyfriend with another person. It all amounts to the same thing, really. Letting someone else fuck your significant other. It’s against social norms because we’re taught to only want to be with one person. Truth be told, my own personal inclination is to enjoy watching another man or woman being pleasured by my sub. The thought of another man using my sub’s pussy to get off is something that turns me on. I haven’t thought too deeply on it all I know is that I enjoy watching it.

That’s my personal inclination, but that’s not necessarily the norm in a D/s relationship. D/s relationships are like any other ones, really. They are as varied as the people on the face of the planet. Some are stricter. Some are borderline abusive. We don’t judge in the lifestyle, or most of us don’t at least. People will enjoy what they enjoy and it will be as varied as the colors in the setting sun. Each person brings their own uniqueness and needs to the relationship. As long as both parties are happy and the agreement is mutually consensual then who are you to judge it?

Now many people lump the two, swinging and D/s together. Many doms enjoy watching their subs pleasure a room full of people. It’s not uncommon but the two hardly go hand in hand. There are many committed, monogamous D/s relationships.

If you’re a part of the lifestyle long enough it’ll happen to you. Your sub gets a wild hair up her ass to act out and challenge your dominance. I’ve had three subs over the course of my ten years and every single one of them has done this. They’ll challenge you. They’ll try to get over on you. It’s the sub’s way to reassure themselves that you’re still in control. It’s up to you as the master, the dom, to remain in control.

You cannot, at any moment allow the sub to get over on you. You have to remember that you are the master and you must remind them of this.

I had a sub try this on me when we were on the phone one night and I was displeased. She was talking back and had gotten into one of her moods. Some people call this being bratty. Many strong willed subs exhibit such behavior and she certainly was a very strong willed sub. To be honest I enjoyed the challenge of keeping her in line. She said something and I demanded that she explain herself. Willfully and slightly playfully she said she wasn’t going to and that there was nothing I could do about it since I wasn’t there.

This upset me, as you could imagine. I will not tolerate my sub getting out of line. I had threatened her with punishment and reminded her that any willful disobedience carried a very strict punishment. Even though I was not with her that did not give her permission to act out and that if she thought otherwise that as any good master would do I had punishment I could dole out while I was away. A punishment that I assured her she would not enjoy. My tone conveyed my seriousness, annoyance, and displeasure which was enough to cause her to snap back into line.

She answered my question but she still got punished. No, the punishment wasn’t as severe as if she continued to disobey me, but she got her punishment none the less. I will not abide any disobedience no matter how short lived or trivial.

I thought I would reward you with a story that has kept me hard. In fact, I stroke myself thinking about this very fantasy regularly.

I unlock the front door and walk in, coming home from a long trip. I’ve been away from my baby for longer than I’d care and the excitement and anticipation of seeing you again after so long an absence is coursing through my body. I find you in the hallway to the master bedroom, you must not have heard me come in. My disappointment at not being greeted like I expect to be greeted conflicts with my desire to immediately pin you against the wall of the hallway and fuck you right there.

“What? No greeting?”, I ask slightly unamused.
“I’m sorry, Sir,” you reply, “I didn’t hear you come in! Please forgive me?”
“We’ll see. Come here.”

You walk slowly over to me, eyes looking meekly to the floor. “Inspection position.” I command. You drop your hands to your side, stand fully upright, and spread your legs slightly to be shoulder width apart like the obedient girl you are. I look at you. You’re wearing a loose tank top that does almost nothing to conceal your ample chest and the loose fitting pajama pants that you like to sleep in.

I walk around behind you and gaze at your body taking it all in like someone at a gallery would admire a painting. I see the curve of your neck, your collarbone, the way the fabric of your top lays against your breasts. I enjoy the look of your pants as they cling to your ass. I move up close behind you. So close that you can feel the warmth of my body, my breath against your neck as I whisper, “Have you been wearing the undergarments I requested?”

“Yes, Sir.” You reply.

I lightly put my hands on your shoulders and run my fingers down your arms then over to your waist. Lightly I hook the top of your pants with my index fingers to check to see if you have indeed been wearing them. I am pleased to find that you are. Then I pull your pants down your legs to reveal the lazy boy shorts underneath. “Good girl, I am pleased. Are you wearing the matching bra?”

Your voice trembles a bit as you tell me something I could already tell, “No Sir.”
“Why not?”
“Because I am not wearing anything and Master said to wear it or nothing.”
I smile not that you can see it with me standing behind you. I suddenly push you up against the wall of the hallway, a little forcefully and move up close behind you. You can feel the hardness of my cock against you. I step back a bit and run my hand down your side, across your ass and between your legs. You moan slightly and part your legs to give me more access. I can feel how warm and wet your pussy is waiting for me to slide my hard cock deep inside you.

I slide two fingers up and down your lips and feel you get warmer at my attentions. The fabric of your underware is damp with your juices.

“My little fucktoy wants her master to fuck her, doesn’t she?”
“Yes, Sir.”

I pull your underware down and then pull your top off above your head. You stand naked before me. The cool air against your skin arousing your nipples and giving a nice counterpoint to the fire between your lege. I replace my hand, taking my fingers and putting them where they were before, between your lips. I slide back and forth, just brushing against your clit.

“I’ve been thinking about this tight little pussy and the way it feels around my cock the entire time I was gone.” I whisper in your ear.
You whimper.

You hear me unbuckle my pants and then the sound of them hitting the floor. I move back and press against you, this time my cock nuzzling between your legs against your pussy.
“You want this cock inside you, don’t you, Fucktoy?”
“Yes, Sir, please?”
“Not just yet, I haven’t finished inspecting your body.”
I run my hands up your sides and then pull your body away from the wall long enough to get my hands around your breasts. I’ve always enjoyed your body, but nothing beats coming home and being reminded how much after not seeing you for a long time.

I pull you against me, my cock still rubbing against your pussy while I knead your breasts with moderate urgency. You can tell how much I want you by how hard my cock is.

I whisper in your ear, “To the bedroom,” and you start walking that direction as I watch. I am a lucky man to have such a beautiful woman. You sit on the edge of the bed expectantly, waiting for me to tell you what next. I languidly climb onto the bed next to you, roll over on my back with my cock bouncing to attention. “Ride me.” I tell you.

You slide yourself up and swing your leg over my stomach and then start scooting back. You reach down and wrap your hand around my throbbing cock and I hear a slight moan escape your lips as you contemplate having it inside you in mere moments. You position my cock between your lips and then pause a moment. I grab your hips tightly and you steady yourself with your hands moving to my chest. Then it happens. You slide down, your pussy so wet and ready for my wide cock to be inside you. You moan as you feel the tip of my cock slide between your lips and then feel it enter you. I think to myself that after not having me for so long your pussy must feel so full as you slide down. About halfway down, I just pull you completely down onto me and when your clit hits my abdomen you start to cum and you cum hard. Your whole body trembles, your moaning at my penetration all but stops as you momentarily forget how to breathe, your pussy clenches around me in the most amazing feeling I’ve ever felt before. I give you a few seconds to enjoy the pleasure spreading through you before starting to fuck you. I thrust up into you and you regain your composure enough to start riding me in earnest.

You can feel every ridge of my cock and it’s warmth as it fills you, as I fuck you. I guide your movements with my hands on your hips and we build a quick rhythm. I shift my weight a bit and flip you over. You feel slightly empty as I slide out with the repositioning but I’m ready to fuck you in earnest now. You lay with your back on the bed and I slide my cock back inside you and I’m not gentle. I need to be inside you. I need to fuck you. I need to cum. I moan as I feel your pussy tighten around me, feeling your orgasm starting to build up again. It feels amazing. You’re so wet and tight and getting tighter as you start to get closer to cumming. My pace quickens and you can tell I’m also getting close. My muscles start to tense up and my breathing becomes more urgent. My moaning gets more constricted and then stops and it happens. I grunt as the tension in my body relaxes. I thrust into you as deep as I can go. You feel my cock begin to spasm and fill your pussy. Spurt after spurt erupts inside you and it feels warm and good.

I can barely hold my weight off of you, I’ve cum hard and I’m drained. I kiss you softly and then roll off of you and hold you. That was quite the welcome home.

The obligatory first post. Let me tell everyone what this blog is really about and what it’s not about in more detail than I can in merely 500 words. Also let me give you some insight into myself.

First, I’m a 30-something male who prefers being in control in my relationships. It’s something that I’ve always gravitated towards ever since I started noticing girls way back many, many years ago. When I read eroticism or watched pornography I was always more turned on by the stories and movies that had a dominant male slant. Stories where there was a dominant male figure with a lone woman, or either cuckolding a couple were the biggest turn-ons. Some number of years ago I became involved in a relationship where we enjoyed this lifestyle. I, the dominant role and she the submissive. We were young and experimented with all aspects of the lifestyle from Total Power Exchange scenes lasting weeks to minor day to day interactions.

The fact of the matter is this, many couples gravitate towards this dynamic much more than people believe. If you’re involved in the 1950’s sexually stereotypical relationship then you’re involved in some way with this dynamic. The man is the breadwinner and the woman tends the home and raises the children. Does he pay the bills and handle the money? When you have an argument is his the last word? You may be involved in this type of Dom/sub control dynamic although at a much, much lighter and a more vanilla level than I am.

I’ve decided to start this blog to write down my thoughts about the lifestyle as well as capture some of my fantasies. I not currently involved with anyone, but when I find someone this will serve as a good template for my desires.